My Lucky find….
I got so lucky and got my hands on an article in “Screenland,” magazine from March of 1952. In this magazine Marilyn Monroe wrote an article titled, “Why my Favorite Friends are Men.” In this article she talks about her relationships with men and women, and how the one with men was the best. I have to say that most women would probably agree with Marilyn. She said, “….I find most men are more open, more generous and much more stimulating than the majority of females…” Well, I really can understand why Marilyn may have felt this way. I can only imagine how catty women were around such a beauty! And that girlfriend is putting it mildly. She went on to say that women let “petty” things get to them and gave an example of two women attending a party and to their utter shock, disgrace and embarrassment they both are wearing the same dress! Something like this would make a girl want to hang herself. Whereas men in the same party are probably wearing the same color suits or tux and life goes on. She says, “Just imagine a male going into a hizzy because a male in his office is wearing the same color suit.” Not going to happen.
She said men were less critical than women. She relates a story of a female she worked with in the studio. One day after rehearsal Marilyn ran into her dressing room put on a pair of jeans, and t-shirt, and her hair was messy, you know, sorta like what we look like today. But in those days, well it just didn’t go. So a female friend tells her as she is running out to the store, “hey isn’t it a little too late for Halloween?” It’s just the feline ways of hating on all things “prettier!” A male friend spotted her in that same getup as she left the store and found her, well- witches-that -hate on her…… “Hot.” She said girls were too hung up on clothes, beauty, and size, basically stuck on appearances, whereas guys were not and she felt comfortable around that. She said that “a man has a tendency to accept you as you are, while most women start to pick flaws and want to change you.” She thought that men were not judgmental, and were loyal friends. Most long term friends for Marilyn were men. Another reason Marilyn may have felt this way about men was because she grew up in many foster homes and always desired to have “a father” of her own.
Ouch to the women’s movement…
In this same article she touches on a subject that many of the women’s movement would not agree with today. She said, “girls shouldn’t worry about being equal to a man in the business world…” but she should rather, “be more concerned with keeping her femininity than topping a man.” Alright, let’s remember it’s the 50’s and this is how some thought. But I have to say that the women’s movement has gone a little too far in our day, in many cases making many in the movement lose their femininity. I’m all for equal pay for the job, I agree that women are capable of doing a job as good as a man, but please don’t tell me to lose my womanhood in the process, and no, not all men are pigs or dumb asses. I will not subscribe to that ridiculous crap. And if a woman decides to stay home to care for her children instead of working outside the home, that does not make her lame. If anything, she is even stronger. And yes, I love men! So to a degree I agree with Marilyn. Yes, girlfriends we can do it, but it’s all good if we use pink while we do. Just sayin’.
She goes on to say that we should embrace our being born women and jokes, “if you spend your life competing with businessmen, what do you have?” “A bank account and ulcers!” She found that women were disingenuous, but men were forthright. The type of male she wanted as a friend had “to have enough fire and assurance to speak up his convictions.” These qualities she even sought out in the actors she co-starred with such as, Robert Mitchum, Richard Widmark, Marlon Brando & Robert Ryan, “the rugged types.”
Male friends rock!
Marilyn felt that women spent too much talk on girly-girl stuff, shopping, gossip, vacillation, calorie counting, stuff that just did nothing for her. It wasn’t, as she put it, that she “liked women less,” but “liked men more.” Marilyn I’m sure had a few female friends in life, but for the most part it was male friendships that made her happiest. Many women today feel the same way. I say, I rather have balance. I love my girlfriend time, but I also cherish my male friendships as well. In fact, my husband and I started out as friends and he is still my “BFF” But I do understand where Marilyn was coming from. I have encountered female- so-called- friends from hell and many times have been tempted to send them right back to hell. So girlfriends, if your BFF is a guy, rock on!
Update, I’ve received comments from a couple of “femi-Nazis,” look, you want to be a man, look like one, but at the same time hate men, rock-on! Only don’t come on this blog spewing your rhetoric, inappropriate language and all, I don’t care for it, and you are wasting your time! I will not post it! Secure women don’t fall for that crap anymore. It’s not the damn 70′s, have you noticed it’s 2012? Now, be a good girl and burn your bra! Ciao!